Even the most promising text interactions with a regulation, grade-A hottie can end with a mediocreor even bad date.
Its pretty confusing, I know. Youre attracted to them physically, sure, and the conversation seems to be there, but when you meet in person, its extremely underwhelming.
Ive met up with guys before who, once face-to-face with me, completely shut down. Though chatty and flirtatious over text, they freeze up and lose all forms of social skills.
Theres always a level of awkwardness with first dates, but usually, you get into a groove after a few drinks. And before you know it, youre locking lips outside the restaurant.
But if those uncomfortable silences continue topersist during the entirety of your date, leave while you can. Though,escaping from your awful first date doesnt mean its the last youve heard from that person.
Even though your experience was less than pleasurable, they might notve gotten the hint. Then, you get home only to receive that I had a good time tonight text and freeze.
Do you ghost em and pretend you never got the text?
That would be a nobecause ghosting is for fools. So instead, you have to craft the perfect reject text to settle things once and for all.
Below, youll see the perfect reject text to send after a date, based on how badly the date went.
If he was a first-class gentleman, but just not your type
Its hard to deny someone when they were actually a perfect angel with minimal flaws and would probably be best friends with your grandmother.
But unfortunately, you cant force romantic feelings and if youre not into someone, thats just how it is. In this case, youre allowed to follow up their text with a straightforward answer. Praise them with compliments, let them know they are straight fire, but be truthful inthat youre just not the one for them.
They deserve your honesty.
If you didnt really feel any connection whatsoever
Though you went into the date optimistic, the only thing you enjoyed was your overpriced cocktail.
You were itching to leave the entire time, full-on inhaling the food and drinks in front of you, but your date just never seemedto acknowledge your eagerness to escape.
Its not to say they were aperson. You just knew it wouldnt go anywhere. At that point, all you could think about were the more exciting things you could be doing in that moment.
So if this kind ofdate decides to follow up for a second date, compose a message that hints at you being too busy to function.
You foresee a heavy workload, a surprise vacation and a terrible rain storm in your future, so a second date will just have to wait.
Hopefully, theyll forget to follow up once youre not busy anymore and you can wash your hands of them (and their number).
If he was just a complete and total dick the entire time
Im not sure where someone thinks they can bean asshole when youmet, but trust me, it happens.
Ive been called a slut over casual conversation as a joke when its been completely unwarranted, yet the guy followed up asking why I never texted him for a second date. Quite a set of balls he had, but I had no problem knocking him down a peg.
If your date thinks being a dick is the best way to scorea second date, they couldnt be more wrong. This isnt high school Im not looking for the bad boy.
Sure, you could just not answer them, but wheres the fun in that?
Instead, compose a text and be direct and even cold if you want to be. Dont let him think his actions arenormal, and let him know being an asshole wont get him anywhere, especially into your pants.
The goal of the date is to dick, not one.
If you were mutually aware it was going nowhere
Theres nothing worse than not being on the same page as your date. Who wants to be told theyre inadequate? The answer: no one.
So if you dont seem like youre hitting it off, the next best scenariois well, both of you having a mutual disinterest in each other.
If you both meet up, look each other up and down and grunt, theres nothing wrong with that. Sure, you could still be laying in bed upside down with a jar of peanut butter on your lap, but just enjoy your meal, a bit of social interaction and be on your way.
Theres no use beating around the bush on this one. And, if youre lucky, maybe they wont even text you after.
But if they do, its probably just a courtesy. Respond with a simple, one-word answer and live happily ever after, still single AF.
Onto the next one!